Biblical masculinity, leadership, and what it means to be a man in an era that’s trying to redefine it out of existence.
The Uncommon Man
One of the things I tell men is that they have to be able to do what is right for the family without an audience. That is harder than it sounds. Because everything in us wants acknowledgment. Not applause necessarily. Just someone noticing. Someone saying — I see what you are carrying. I see how...
The Uncommon Man
I was watching a commercial the other day. One of those car insurance ones. You know the type. Husband and wife standing in the driveway. She is sharp, decisive, already has the app pulled up and the quote locked in. He is standing there looking confused. Maybe scratching his head. Maybe saying something slightly dumb...
The Uncommon Man
There was a season in my life where I felt like I owed everybody a reason. Why I believed what I believed. Why I led the way I led. Why I was not more flexible, more open, more willing to meet people in the middle on things God already settled. I was exhausted before noon...
The Uncommon Man
I used to think being strong meant never letting anyone see the strain. Keep the face neutral. Keep the voice steady. Handle whatever comes and handle it alone. Never ask for help because asking for help meant you were not equipped for the load you were carrying. I wore that version of strength for years....
The Uncommon Man
There is a version of you that never got built. Not because you were not capable. Because somewhere along the way the right voice at the right moment never showed up. Nobody handed you the blueprint. Nobody pulled you aside and said – this is what a man does, this is how a man thinks,...
The Uncommon Man
I want to talk about something that does not get discussed honestly very often. Men are leaving the church. Not all at once. Quietly. One at a time. They stop showing up and eventually nobody notices because the service keeps running and the seats fill with everyone else. The reasons vary. But there is one...
The Uncommon Man
Your son is running an experiment on you right now. He does not know that is what he is doing. But he is collecting data every single day. How you talk to his mother. How you handle money when it is tight. How you respond when someone disrespects you in public. How you treat people...
The Uncommon Man
Somewhere along the way somebody convinced women to be suspicious of a man with a backbone. A man who leads got rebranded as controlling. A man with convictions got rebranded as rigid. A man who holds a standard got rebranded as judgmental. And enough women bought it long enough that some of them started choosing...
The Uncommon Man
Physical presence is not the same as fatherhood. A man can sleep under the same roof as his children every night of their lives and still be completely absent. Still be a stranger they share a last name with. Still be someone they tiptoe around instead of run to. I have watched it. A father...
The Uncommon Man
I have met men who were completely different people depending on the room. At church, humble and soft-spoken. At work, sharp and decisive. At home, checked out and unavailable. Around their boys, loud and reckless. Each version carefully adjusted for the audience. It is exhausting to watch. I can only imagine how exhausting it is...