Personal observations on culture, society, and everyday life. What Stephon notices that most people won’t say out loud.
My Observations
There was a man at a church I used to attend who could pray the roof off that building. I am not exaggerating. When he got going, grown men would start wiping their faces, and the organ player would find a chord to lay up under him. He knew where to pause. He knew when...
My Observations
I remember when a disagreement could end with both people still standing. Not because someone won. Because both people had actually said what they meant and heard what the other person meant and arrived somewhere that felt more complete than where they started. Not always agreement. Sometimes just understanding. The recognition that two people could...
My Observations
I want to talk about the people who can do it. Not the people who say sorry without meaning it. Not the people who offer a qualified admission designed to spread the blame thin enough that they are only technically responsible for a fraction of it. The actual people. The ones who can look at...
My Observations
Being wrong is not the same as being bad. Most people know this intellectually. Almost nobody behaves like they believe it. Watch what happens when someone is confronted with clear evidence that they were mistaken about something. In the rare person who is genuinely secure the response is simple. Oh. I did not know that....
My Observations
I spent a long time trying to find the right words. The right tone. The right moment. The right approach that would finally get through to a person who had never been able to hear me no matter how carefully I spoke. I adjusted my delivery. I softened my language. I picked better times. I...
My Observations
Nobody argues in a vacuum. The way a person handles conflict is not random. It was learned. Absorbed. Built up over years from watching how the people around them fought, from the media they consumed, from the models of communication they were exposed to before they had the critical distance to evaluate them. Feed a...
My Observations
I am a problem solver by nature. When something is broken I want to understand it, name it, and find the path to fixing it. That is just how I am wired. When I enter a difficult conversation I am carrying tools. Questions that get to the root. Observations that name what is actually happening....
My Observations
Something shifted in me the day I realized that some arguments are not actually arguments. They are scripts. Written before you arrived. With a role already assigned to you that has nothing to do with who you actually are or what you actually said. You walked into a conversation that was already finished. You just...
My Observations
I want to talk about reality television for a minute. Not as entertainment. As education. Because whether people realize it or not, these shows have been teaching a generation how to handle conflict. And the lesson is devastating. The lesson is this. When you have a problem with someone you do not sit down and...
My Observations
There is a specific kind of conversation that leaves you feeling like you walked into a room you did not recognize by the time you walked out. You went in trying to explain something. Something honest. Something you chose your words for carefully. You kept your tone soft. You removed the edge from your voice...