Pornography has a rebranding problem. Not because people are starting to see through it. Because the people who profit from it got very good at making it sound like a civil rights issue. Free expression. Sexual liberation. Consenting adults. Who are you to tell someone what they can and cannot watch. That is the argument....
Letters To Nobody
The Emasculation of the American Sitcom
I want to talk about something that has been happening so gradually and so consistently that most people stopped noticing it years ago. Turn on almost any sitcom from the last twenty years. Find the married couple. Watch how they interact. The husband is confused. Lovably incompetent. Well-meaning but perpetually a step behind. He makes...
The Writing Life
Who I Am Writing For
I know exactly who I wrote Black Water for. It is the person who is talented in ways that nobody around them has noticed. Who has gifts that are sitting unused because the noise of everything that went wrong is louder than the signal of everything they were built to do. Who has been told...
The Uncommon Man
The Son Who Is Watching Everything
Your son is running an experiment on you right now. He does not know that is what he is doing. But he is collecting data every single day. How you talk to his mother. How you handle money when it is tight. How you respond when someone disrespects you in public. How you treat people...
Critical Race Theory does not teach history. It teaches identity. Specifically it teaches children to see themselves first and foremost through the lens of racial group membership. White children are taught that they carry inherited guilt for things they did not do. Black children are taught that they are defined by oppression that other people...
Letters To Nobody
What You Consume Shapes How You Fight
Nobody argues in a vacuum. The way a person handles conflict is not random. It was learned. Absorbed. Built up over years from watching how the people around them fought, from the media they consumed, from the models of communication they were exposed to before they had the critical distance to evaluate them. Feed a...
The Uncommon Man
Strong Men Do Not Scare Good Women
Somewhere along the way somebody convinced women to be suspicious of a man with a backbone. A man who leads got rebranded as controlling. A man with convictions got rebranded as rigid. A man who holds a standard got rebranded as judgmental. And enough women bought it long enough that some of them started choosing...
I want to ask a simple question. When did we decide that a child – who cannot drive, cannot vote, cannot sign a contract, cannot buy a beer – is old enough to make a permanent irreversible decision about their own body? Because that is exactly what the gender transition movement is asking us to...
Letters To Nobody
The Problem Solver and The Point Scorer
I am a problem solver by nature. When something is broken I want to understand it, name it, and find the path to fixing it. That is just how I am wired. When I enter a difficult conversation I am carrying tools. Questions that get to the root. Observations that name what is actually happening....
The Writing Life
The Cliffhanger As A Promise
I end chapters on edges. Not every chapter. But most of them. A question that is not answered. A decision that has been made but whose consequences have not arrived yet. A door that just opened into a room the reader has not seen. Something that makes putting the book down feel like leaving in...