I have met men who were completely different people depending on the room.

At church, humble and soft-spoken. At work, sharp and decisive. At home, checked out and unavailable. Around their boys, loud and reckless. Each version carefully adjusted for the audience.

It is exhausting to watch. I can only imagine how exhausting it is to live.

The problem with managing versions of yourself is that none of them are actually you. You are just a collection of performances with no real person underneath. And eventually the performances start contradicting each other and the people closest to you stop knowing who is going to walk through the door.

Your wife deserves to know who she married. Your children deserve a father who is the same man on Saturday that he is on Sunday.

Integrity is not about being perfect. It is about being the same. Consistent. Predictable in the best sense of the word. A man people can read because he never changes his face depending on who is in the room.

That kind of man is rare right now.

Be that man anyway.

Stephon Rudd

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